It is increasingly clear that the Lord is pouring forth not just a greater understanding of spiritual son-ship and fatherhood, but also a realization of our possession and place as His children and heirs.
The Lord deals with the sin issue immediately after receiving Christ as our Savior. However, the Lord’s dealing with our “character” may take a lifetime, depending on our position and response to Him, as His sons. He becomes “Lord” when our character is offered as a sacrifice.
Because of our failure to understand the heritage and inheritance that we possess as mankind, much of the church has moved in a weakened position of presumption and fleshly leadings. Abraham and Sarah realized the promise that the Lord had spoken to them concerning a son to pass on their inheritance and spiritual heritage. Instead, they moved in fleshly presumption and created “Ishmael.”
Once an “Ishmael” is produced in our lives and societies - they are very difficult to get rid of and they will always persecute the heart of “Isaac.” In other words, all works, words, and choices acted upon without hearing the Lord’s voice will create a type of Ishmael and ultimately lead to sin in our lives.
Think about the following verse for a moment. “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.” If there are “these” sons it must also mean that there are “those” sons who are not lead by the spirit.
The hour is at hand that we must continue in our pursuit of allowing the Lord to draw and surface our hidden issues for the purpose of healing and transformation. I want to take just a minute to draw a comparison between sons which are saved and healed and those sone who saved and unhealed. Many of you may already know much of these foundational behaviors, but I feel it necessary to lay these traits out as I build upon the core of this message. It reveals many characteristics exhibited by those who have not been healed of “rejection” which is humanity’s deepest wound and most difficult to cure.
Those who are spiritually unhealed see the image of God as a master. The spiritually healed son recognize God as a loving parent.
The unhealed son is independent and self-reliant. The secure son is interdependent and recognizes his need.
The unhealed is insecure and lacks peace. The healed son is at rest and has peace.
The unhealed strives for the praise, approval, and acceptance of man. The son is totally accepted in God’s love and justified by grace.
Those spiritually and emotionally unhealed have a need for personal achievement as they seek to impress God and others. Or, they possess no motivation to serve at all. The son of God serves and is motivated by a deep gratitude for being unconditionally loved and accepted.
The motive behind sacrifice and service for those unhealed is bound to a form of duty and earning God’s favor. Or, they have no motivation at all. To the son, sacrifice is a pleasure and delight.
The motive for sexual purity to the unhealed is that they “must” be holy to have God’s favor, thus increasing a sense of shame and guilt. The son desires to be holy. They do not want anything to hinder intimate relationship with God.
The self image of the unhealed suffers self-rejection from comparing themselves to others. A son of God has a self-image that is positive and affirmed because they know they have value to God.
The unhealed seeks comfort in counterfeit affections: addictions, compulsions, escapism, busyness and hyper-religious activity. A son of God seeks times of quietness and solitude to rest in the Father’s presence and love.
The relationship with peers of the unhealed is competitive and has rivalry and jealousy toward another’s success and position. A son of God will cultivate relationships that are humble and seek unity as they value others and are able to rejoice in their blessing and success.
The unhealed handles others faults by accusation and exposure in order to make themselves look good by making others look bad. The son of God will cover other’s faults by love and seeking to restore others in gentleness.
The spirit of the unhealed will view authority as a source of pain; distrustful toward them; and lack a heart attitude of submission. The son is respectful, honoring; as they view authority from God and of value to their maturity in life.
The unhealed has difficulty receiving admonition. They “must” be right, so they easily have their feelings hurt and close their spirit to correction. The son is willing to receive admonition (correction) as a blessing and need in their life so their faults and weaknesses are exposed and put to death.
The spiritually and emotionally unhealed is guarded and conditional in their expression of love. Their love is based upon another’s performance as they seek to get their needs met. The son is open, patient, and affectionate as they lay their life and agendas down in order to meet the needs of others.
The spiritual condition of the unhealed is bondage. The son lives and resides in a heart condition of liberty.
I hope that this comparison has shed some light upon the many divisive and judgmental issues that we have and are experiencing in the church, as well as in our own individual lives. I personally can relate to many of these comparisons in my own life and I can only thank and praise God that He has delivered me and is still healing me from some of these same issues that I have carried since childhood. Just ten years ago, I never would have conceived of sharing what I am about to share with you…I would have much rather desired that you saw my spiritual maturity and strength, rather than my weakness and need.
When I look at the lives of the prophets of old, I recognize men and women who walked in the anointing and power of God. However, the Lord also paints a picture in His Word to show us their humanity and weaknesses as well as He continued to refine and work in their lives. What a wonderful assurance of God’s grace, patience and love for us.
We have been designed by God with purpose and meaning. He created us in His image — and that image is the image of LOVE. The Bible says that “God is love.” God, upon defining himself, simply states: “I am” and “I am love.“ With that said, we were created for relationship to love and to be loved. But it’s not that simple. We are to be loved how God designed us to be loved and that is a loaded statement! We may have had wonderfully kind parents, but if they did not love or express love in the manner of how God designed us to be loved; we have already moved into the roots and affects of rejection.
We must understand this “reality” to move into spiritual healing and maturity. We were designed to be loved in the love of God expressed through those who are His sons, daughters (our mothers) and spiritual fathers. Once again, there is a stark difference between being spirit-filled and spirit-led. Spirit-filled is a gift of grace through faith. Being spirit-led is a choice of obedience! Sons move in maturity and relational intimacy…They are led by the Spirit of God and are obedient to God’s voice and will. The Bible states that obedience is far greater than sacrifice.
Let’s parallel our spiritual (church) and our natural families: Just because we are a family member “by blood” and a part of the household, does not mean that we will experience the blessing of inheritance passed down by the head of the household our fathers in the natural and Christ in the spiritual). It is freely given to the one within a family whether natural or spiritual who moves in the function and heart of a true son. This is contrary to the modern prosperity message because you must first be son before you can become a father. Only genuine sons partake of the inheritance in Christ. Just like a natural inheritance – a spiritual inheritance is not for the dead – but for the living.
Areas of rejection in the unhealed believer will soon manifest in adverse behaviors such as chronic lying as a young child, eruptive behaviors for attention, and an unexplained knowledge of sexual activity and thoughts. As a very young child of 3-4 years old, I somehow, without reading or experiencing sexual actions, understood them and had a desire or curiosity for them. Many would wonder why? The answer is in the fact that “rejection” is the greatest pain that humanity suffers. (example: Christ) The wounds of rejection are the deepest and most painful left unhealed. Pain will almost always seek out areas of pleasure to relieve or band-aid itself. Something in the soul of fallen man (even a young child) moves into a spiritual avenue of darkness when not accepted in the love of God or experience how the Father has designed us to be loved through a godly parental and spiritual example.
As we grow a little older, the rejected soul will usually gravitate toward music. Music holds within it tremendous power and influence for both the spiritually good and the spiritually bad. Demonic entities understand the powerful influence of music upon the soul of a child. The gravitation toward music at such young ages is not so much about the understanding of notes, singing style, sound, or even as a means of expression, as much as it is a vehicle of escape.
Rejected or spiritually unhealed children and even adults will escape into music at such a degree that they actually create a false reality of themselves singing and playing the instruments they are listening too. They create an illusion of being admired by a make-believe audience. I found myself escaping in this for 20 years. Why? Because I wanted to be praised, loved, affirmed, and admired in my rejected and unhealed condition.
It is not long before pain left unhealed spreads into others of life. Most by this time have repressed the pain of rejection so deep, that they are essentially unaware that they are truly hurting and in their bondage moves or escapes into pornography or pre-marital sex as a means to cover that pain. The purpose is to garner affirmation and what we perceive as real and genuine love. Young men will escape into a magazine, video, and a false reality of having sex with a person who in reality is not there. Young women will escape into a warped sense of love through physical touch (sex ) to meet their need for approval and affection. This is a characteristic of young women who have been neglected of having a father express tender and healthy affectionate love to them as well as complimenting then on their “inner beauty” Fathers were designed by God to mirror Himself in the lives of our children…especially our daughters. The lack of giving and affirmation of inner beauty has led to many co-dependent behaviors in women.
The rejected human soul by this time in life is starved and famished for the unconditional and affirming love of God. But few understand the source of God’s love and continue to escape through synthetics (drugs and alcohol) or turn to man to quench or cover their pain through means of the flesh or what is natural.
Without the healing and affirming love of God we grow into to our teen years and young adult life escaping into a “works oriented” lifestyle to meet our needs for love and affirmation. This of course will carry over and manifest itself in the church for the true church is simply a microcosym of the families actions Monday thru Saturday that comprise it.
False imaginations begin to rule the day as we visualize ourselves performing a task well. The rejected and unhealed individual will visualize a false reality of someone whom they desire to love and be loved virtually watching them perform the task they are doing well. In reality, this person is not really there. (I have found this to be a common trait among teen and young men such as myself at this age) The unhealed soul escapes into a realm that creates that person being present and watching as to somehow harness that person’s approval and admiration. Many go through their lives knowing they do this, but they tend to bury these “realities” and refuse to face the truth of their bankruptcy of knowing or resting in the unconditional love of God and our need to be affirmed by Him alone.
It is soon that the escapism that many have been living for most of their lives begins to strongly influence and distort the life that they live and the relationships they have made. In other words, many of us have lived the better part of our lives in the false reality and grip of escapism. The insecurities begin to surface as jealousy, criticism, self-doubt, judgments, and even outbursts of anger. It doesn’t take long before the rejected adult finds comfort in seeing others fail so they might feel better about themselves. Especially, if it is a similar function, such as a co-worker. The unhealed person doesn’t go out of their way to see others fail; they simply “feel good” about themselves when others do fail. The success of others becomes a stumbling block rather than an occasion for celebration. We have now grown older and have moved into a life of bondage and drudgery, continually comparing ourselves to others and living in the past.
God’s plan is that we would live an abundant life and one full of joy, rest, and peace. God loves us with an everlasting love that can never be earned, purchased, or attained through religious striving and works. His love is unconditional and always available. It is when we truly understand ourselves; that we can present ourselves to our loving Father who we truly are and come “just as I am.”
This was a pinnacle moment in my life. It was then that the anointing and fragrance of Christ was allowed to flow through my life without the contamination of my buried hurts and issues. I never experienced the reality of God’s power and inheritance because I was rarely “real” and living in the “real world.” I am still very much a work in process and progress. But, I am now truly living the abundant and prosperous life — both naturally and spiritually.